Hi Loves, I am back again with a topic dear to my heart: Being true to yourself. I bring this up today because it speaks directly to me as well. If you take a look at my website and social media pages, I wear a lot of braids and protective styles. I have been natural for 8 years; however for 5 of those years I only wore my hair straightened. I had several reasons for wearing my hair straight. One of the reasons was because I liked how I looked with straight hair. Another reason was because I didn’t want to miss out on job opportunities. Yikes! I hate I am even saying that but let’s be honest, I know I am not the only one who has ever thought of that. A lot of us (African-American women) were taught that natural hair or braids were offensive somehow and could possibly cause us to miss out on certain jobs. Sad. Why should we have to damage our hair with heat and wear weaves to make others feel comfortable? Anyway, I say all of that to say, when I turned 30, I did another big chop. I needed to start over and besides, I had a lot of heat damage. I wore wigs for a few months until my hair was long enough for braids and I have been wearing braids ever since. I understand that some people may not want to work with me because they feel braids are unprofessional. To those people, I say: Thank you. I’d never want to work with someone because they are offended by my hair. I am honored to be able rock natural course hair and protective styles. I am proud of my coily and sometimes unmanageable hair.
I made it a point to wear braids for my business shoot. I could’ve gotten some weave or straightened my hair but I don’t wear my hair that way. I have nothing against weaves and blow outs, I may do those styles again at some point. I am just saying that for me, right now, I am happy with who I am. I don’t need to change who I am or my style for clients, business partners or anyone else for that matter.
I urge all of you who are reading this to be yourself. Whatever it is you are struggling with, it’s OK. You are fine just the way you are (inside and out). No need to make drastic changes to your appearance or personality. If you”re an introvert, there is no need to try to pretend to be an extrovert. People will want to work with you or be with you for you and if they don’t, GREAT! The only person you have to please besides yourself is God. And guess what? God said that we are all fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Even the very hairs of your head are all numbered (Luke 12:7). Wow! That is so amazing to me.
Stay Blessed 🙂
**Disclaimer: This post is for individuals struggling with low self-esteem, not upkeep and looking presentable. That’s another topic :)**